I am binary pt. I

by StudentAH

Published October 15, 2020

In Short Poems

I once met a man

whom I didn't understand.

I wanted clarity,

He didn't want to marry me.


We pondered our thoughts,

contended,

and finally


We reasoned,

We concluded:

He's fluid,

And I'm binary.

Comments & reviews · 3
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Hijinks
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Hijinks wrote a review Review · Dec 5, 2020

Hi there StudentAH! I see your poem's been in the green room for several months, so I thought I'd drop by with a review for you c:

I'm going to divide my review up into sections, just to organize my thoughts!

Rhyme and flow
I think one of the strongest elements of your poem is the rhyme and the flow - and, in fact, the rhyme helps to add to the sense of movement and rhythm. And while I don't think you're using a deliberate/strict meter, your use of syllables in each line is really rhythmic. If we show the number of syllables in each line, the structure is like this:

5
7
6
8

5
3
4

3
4
3
5

I think this overall works quite well, and I especially enjoy how the middle stanza flows. I just have one suggestion -> I'd suggest taking out the "And" in front of "I'm binary", so that that line is only 4 syllables. The reason I think this would sound better is because you're rhyming it with the "and finally" line, which is also 4 syllables; and if you read it aloud, I think you'll find the "And" feels a bit awkward. So, if you removed that "And", the final couplet would look like this:
He's fluid;
I'm binary.

(I changed the comma to a semicolon just for proper grammar, since your poem seems to be following conventional grammar rules - but punctuation is an artistic liberty in poetry, so you can of course keep the comma if you prefer.)
With that one single syllable of the last line removed, I think the flow of the poem is absolutely flawless and makes sense with the rhyming scheme. So overall, your flow already is pretty much impeccable!


Language / diction
Your vocabulary is great; words like "clarity", "pondered", and "contended" are all very strong nouns&verbs.
One comment I have - because it isn't really a critique, per se - is that the style of writing in this poem feels very matter of fact. The narrator is stating the facts with pretty much zero embellishment or imagery, and I would describe the tone of the poem as cold, detached, and analytical. Like I said, this isn't necessarily a critique, as tone/diction is a stylistic choice, however I personally would prefer more imagery and descriptions. Imagery is part of what really allows a reader to immerse themself in a poem, and right now this poem feels a bit bare. You could consider describing the "man", or what "clarity" is like to the narrator, or how they pondered their thoughts (ex: "like a rambling brook", "neatly filing complaints into the grasp of manila folders") - and use whatever descriptors fit your image for the poem.
However, if you like the current style of the poem, that is totally your choice as the poet!


Meaning and context
I think this poem is quite original, and I like your metaphor as fluid/binary being grey/black+white perspectives. I like how you characterize the (binary/black+white) narrator as wanting straightforward 'clarity' very early on in the poem, as that helps show their personality and their binary-ness.
One thing I will say is that I feel like this poem could use more context. As it is, it's quite vague, which makes it hard for me as a reader to really empathize with what's going on. This article on specificity explains a lot about being too specific / too vague, and I'd definitely recommend giving it a read!
The main question this poem raises for me right now is - what's the relationship between these two peope? The narrator doesn't understand this man, suggesting perhaps they don't know each other very well, but then goes on to say he doesn't want to marry them, suggesting the two of them are in fact in a relationship. (The only reason I can think of for the narrator expecting him to marry them in the first place.) So perhaps giving a slightly lead-up that gives some context to the poem would help it have more of an impact?

Overall, this is an interesting read! I really really like your use of rhyme and flow, and I think adding some more descriptions/context could help strengthen this poem. I hope this is helpful, and if you have any questions feel free to ask!

Keep writing,

whatcha

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ChrisCalaid
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ChrisCalaid wrote a review Review · Oct 16, 2020

Hola! I'm back again because your second poem was making me courious. I am once again very impressed by your poem, how you could make a thing that is a million peices in to one little ribbon like this poem. I love how you write this poem and I truly enjoyed time reading this and the other part of this poem.

We reasoned,

We concluded:

He's fluid,

And I'm binary.


I especailly love how you end this part of poem. And most of all, how you express gender binary and gender fluid as one who has a black and white mindset and the other gray!

Thank you for sharing this poem!

~ChrisDixon

Thank you for the review, but actually it is not about gender at all. I'm simply using the words fluid to describe a person who is always flaky and keeping people in the gray. And binary to describe a person who only sees two options (marry me or don't).

It has nothing to do with gender. People just think it does because the gender fluidity words are derived from "binary" meaning two, and fluidity meaning "more than two."

So yeah, I hope that wasn't confusing. I thought my last comment would clear it up.

Binary is a number system, and I guess the fluid person would be a bit like a quantum computer. If anything, that is a closer analogy.

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StudentAH
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StudentAH commented Comment · Oct 15, 2020

This is *not* a reference to gender binary and gender fluid. Not in the slightest. This poem has no connection to that.

I say this because I think many people these days only are familiar with those terms because of genders. But binary simply means two options. And fluid means there is a gradient of possibilities in between. In my poem, this is a reference to one person who has a black and white mindset, and to the other person who keeps people in the gray.

So in this poem, it has really nothing to do with gender identities at all. The terms binary and fluid don't actually have anything to do with gender unless you put the word "gender" in front of it. This poem was meant to be completely independent of those ideas.

It is slightly frustrating to me that readers may not understand the context of my poem. Binary is a number system. I guess fluid would be like the quantum computers.



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