What is happiness to you?
For some people, happiness can be buying your dream house, being rich, or being with the person you love. To me, happiness is still quite a blur, but I know that to me, true happiness is loving who you are as a person, and smiling not just on the outside but also the inside. Anyone can smile, but can they smile truly and be happy on the inside? For so long I have hated myself. I would literally forgive everyone in my life except me. I was never satisfied with who I am. My parents expected the highest from me, love came by but eventually left, and I was never satisfied with my physique. As some of you may know after my recent incident with heartbreak I made the decision to love and put myself first for once.
As an overthinker, it is extremely hard to think things easily, I have always thought the worst of things, it was like sailing on a massive ship with great potential through a fierce storm of non-existent scenarios filling up the ship causing it to become unstable. It's sad to see how many people in today's society aren't happy with who they are. We are so used to pretending to be someone we’re not, that most of us have forgotten who we truly are.
Let me ask you a question, name three people you love. You have your answers ready? I can certainly guarantee that no one in this room would have said themselves for any of the three people chosen. Shocking right? And if you truly did say yourself then please give yourself a massive pat on your back. To some of you it may sound absurd, I mean what idiot would say themselves right? Haha.
Or could it really be that self love is so scarce in our society that it is almost extinct?
The common problem in my perspective about today’s world is that too many people rush into a relationship clearly because they do not want to feel left out and alone. Or because they believe that the only way to be truly happy is to be with someone. I have seen plenty of couples, from the spark of their relationship to their tearful end. Strangely enough even during the relationship one would still cry from time to time, hating themselves, never forgiving their past mistakes.
Now I have also seen people that are single but they were literally exploding with happiness and positivity. They looked prettier than others and much happier. This I guess comes to prove that loving yourself first makes you unstoppable from this intoxicated world. Now I'm not saying relationships are bad because yes there are relationships where people love both themselves and their partners and that's what a relationship should be.
To be honest, I think this is the main issue between singles and those in a relationship. People that are single are so pressured by society to find a relationship because otherwise they think you won't be happy. But they are giving them no time to find out that loving yourself is the true meaning to happiness.
“There doesn't have to be loneliness in being alone, life can be beautiful, spontaneous, surprising, romantic and magical without you having some love affair happening, and you can replace all of those feelings you used to have when you were enamoured with someone with being surrounded by your friends, exploring and learning new things and challenging yourself” (Taylor Swift: emphasis added). Life’s about falling in love with yourself and continuing that, instead of falling in love with someone, who may not stay by your side forever. But you all of all people will. You were the only one who was always there for you, in the darkest of times, to the brightest of days, when you were in your bed crying, when you were broken, every time the person that woke up to a new day with new possibilities with you, is you.
Relationships aren't just about finding someone you think is pretty whether that may be on the outside or inside and being infatuated with them. Relationships are about spreading your love and connecting that love with someone special and then giving it to the rest of the world. So be yourself, love who you are and be compassionate and then, give that love and compassion and kindness to everyone around you and it will always come back to you.