Hmmm...

I need some help sorting out plots/subplots!

In my story Hourglass, there is a romance (i know you are thinking...sam/romance don't mix lol) but I want to make it a focal point of the story...without making it the focal point of the story.

Gah. I know I am confusing you, but do you get what I mean?

There are more important aspects of the story than the romance, but I don't want that part of it to be undermined.

I need help sorting out my priorities with this piece...and there's also the bit about finding my mind...

Hmmmm... I'm not sure how to advise, because I've never thought about the problem before (and now the question is ... why havn't I? It's a perfectly good question) I think that it might help if you mad ethe main characters think more about the main points in the story. See, the things that the story spends more time describing, or that teh main characters think about more, are focused on more by the reader. At least that's how I've always thought of it ... so I hope it helped you.

my suggestion. Don't stress about it. Just write the story while keeping an awareness of what the characters' relationships are. Afterwards, if you still see the problem you feel you are having, then you can fix it.