Would you rather build a house by hand only to have it knocked down, or buy an unfinished house only to realise that the realtor was a con artist and has stolen all of your money?
'Hush, hush!' I whispered; 'people can have many cousins and of all sorts, Miss Cathy, without being any the worse for it; only they needn't keep their company, if they be disagreeable and bad. — Emily Bronte, Wuthering Heights