Love

“The greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.”

One thing I have never been fully capable of grasping my mind around is love. Have you ever noticed how you see two people at a young age saying they are in love. Their eyes began to shine when they hear the other ones name, their hearts skip faster when they see that special person approach. Then everything changes. Those two lovers, the one holding hands to tight, you never thought they’d let go, rip their very own hands apart. The process is silent. Not one around them can hear the screaming pain that echoes in their head. No one can see how their hearts are now two figures, sliced into halves. So then my main question emerges, one question that I am sure we have all asked ourselves at some point in our lives. Why do we love? It is as if people know and see the warning label of love. Love is in amazing thing, go ahead and do it, but WARNING: The results will be a heartbreak in the end. It’s as if they simply erase the last part, unaware of what mess they are getting themselves into. It honestly it humorous when I see people that act as if they have never fallen in love. All they look for is a hook-up, or experimienting. What is a pity is the fact that those people don’t know how much the other person may be thinking the opposite. Maybe they don’t want a hook-up or a quick experiment. That results in hearts breaking. Falling too quickly is something, a lot of people tend to do. They close their eyes and step forward and began to fall down the cliff. I thought love was suppose to be never ending. Eternal. I thought love wasn’t suppose to be jealous? I thought love wasn’t suppose to hurt? I thought love was suppose to trust? I thought love was suppose to be patient?

But it just isn’t. Love isn’t just seeing someone and thinking, “They are cute.” And then thinking you fell for them. That’s lust. Love is much more complex, or maybe it isn’t? Maybe love is simple, yet we make it complex. Either way love takes time. We feel as if some things are love, but they really aren’t. However, let me get back to the pain topic, the focus of this passage. If we all know that love is going to hurt, result in endless pain in the end, why do we still fall for it? Why do we act as if we are naïve prey, walking right into the hunter’s trap? We’re human, maybe that’s why. We all need to make mistakes in life, learn from them, heal from them, and then the cycle continues. All this honestly just gives me a headache. Love is a confusing topic. Possibly something that no one will ever find the answer too. All I know is that love results in pain. Pain results in love. The two are incorporated together. I’ve broken my heart many times. I’ve also broken hearts many times. L-O-V-E. Even spelling it out makes no sense of it. Love is love to put simply. The answers are many, the question is one. I hope one day I realize what love truly means and why I still feel it despite the fact I know it’ll hurt in the end. Someday I’ll know the answer. And when I do, I’ll forget the past, I’ll forget about you, and I’ll know that this moment right here, this now for me right here, is what true love is.

this is really good. i totally get what you're saying.

That's really strong. It ask so much of something that seems so small but is in fact so big in our lives. You were right to say that the question "What is love?" has so many different answers. I believe there isn't one. There is always a different meaning of love by how you look at it and what you do with it. To me, love is something of a commitment. When you love, you have to trust that person. You have to see them as a friend that you know so well, so better, then most. It's like a best friend only you know you can see them with you in any good or bad thing. It's hard to love and I haven't found anyone nor dated. School isn't for that to me. What you wrote here is very strong and it makes you question so much over something that is so simple yet so complicated. Good job to you. Keep it up!

Hey, JD! Here to review.

Hmm...I really like the idea you have behind this. I think it's well written and well thought-out. Good job in those aspects.

However, I notice that you say multiple times that love always results in pain. Now, this is obviously just my opinion and can be ignored if you want to, but I think I should tell you anyways. It's just not possible to me for love to end in pain 100% of the time. It doesn't make sense. I mean, if you think of all the successful relationships in the world, how many end in true pain, like the pain of betrayal or dishonesty? Not nearly as much as those that aren't affected by them. Also, I wouldn't count the pain of death, because it's just not functional to guard yourself against the loss of a loved one by simply not loving them at all.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is this: the end result of love is love. No matter how hurt you are because of your love for someone, you always love that person (well, most of the time) afterwards, and thus the love is something separate from the hurt.

That's just my opinion, anyways, and I still liked this piece.

P.S. My favorite quote to live by is, "Love will wait."

I think the reason we all fall in love, even if it's with the wrong people and we know it's just going to end up hurting us, is because we can't help it. I don't think anyone really has any control over who they love. Love is like a tradition, like Christmas, it's expected and when you open up that last wrapped present and it's not what you wanted it's hard not to show the disappointment and everyone can see your hurt but they ignore it because they got what they want. Some of us will just never get the present we want. I just don't think that everyone is supposed to- or is ever going to find love. I think your piece is very interactive, it makes people think.

Hero here to review! Anyhow, I found your points very interesting, but I personally don't agree with some of them.

You talk about how love will inevitably end in heartbreak. Well, what about when it just fades? When the two lovers just start to feel a bit tired of each other, and mutually agree not to see each other? I mean, yes, harsh breakups do happen, but no, not all the time; softer breakups do happen.

Also, one sentence got me:

Pain results in love.

...Sorry, but, I dunno. Pain doesn't usually result in love. If someone pushes me down the stairs, I do not fall for the person who pushed me, or the stairs for that matter. Pain results in fear, mostly.

But, yeah. Also, hearts breaking, well, yes, it sucks, but, surely there's always the getting over it? I mean, people like Mrs. Havisham do exist, but most people get over old loves, most people get over it. So love = pain isn't really a good equation.
Chemically: love -> pain (sometimes) -> indifference/being OK with it.

Hey JustDance,

I thought that this was a very interesting piece. Personally though, I have a hard time believing what you say. I think that REAL love always ends happily, not in the dismal, painful, dare I say violent, falling off cliffs sort of way.

But judging just the work itself, I thought it was good. You took a side and defended it, but you also subtly put in counterpoints as well.

Good job overall.

-Minister

Well I hope my aspect on love isn't that it's a horrible thing that results in pain.
It's not.
I think this was more to explain how love is painful and how lust can be confused with love. How sometimes love hurts a lot. But if you look close towards the end, the message in my mind is that love is painful, but love also heals.
So..that one true love will heal all the other previous scars made. :)

Haha, sorry. This weird mood I'm in made it a tad confusing.
But thanks for the wonderful comments and insight!
More welcomed.

I completely see where your coming from =] Love is amazing but there will heartbreak. I think theres a point after awhile when your with the right person you'll know. I thought I was going to marry my first boyfriend and look where I am now: single since August. But I can still see the forever in two of my best friends who are dating. Anyways this was great! The only thing I recomend is try not to ask so many questions; it makes the article seem like you don't know exactly where your coming from and what your explaining. You mentioned you still couldn't figure out love and thats ok, but you just want to have a grip on your writting because when your writting an informative paper or simply a story you have compete power over and you want to show that in whatever story your doing.

hope this helped,
Alyson =]