A Writer’s Code of Laws
1)
Note: Number one is very important to me, and as such, should be to all of you as well but how you go about it, is entirely up to each individual.
Never betray the trust of family of friends for the sake of a juicy story or poem.
What I mean by this statement is, people who generally hold you in high regard or at least feel comfortable enough to share personal details; secrets, outlooks on life, their family, etc., it’s not recommended to use one’s personal information against them without their knowledge. Remember, you are their friend or blood; it’s not wise to betray so great as a gift as trust.
Besides, it’ll make you feel sleazy later on.
2)
It’s OK to ramble on like an incoherent ding-a-ling.
3)
You must have access to a dictionary and thesaurus at all times.
4)
Let your mind wander. Do not suppress the thought process.
5)
It’s perfectly acceptable about wanting to stab things. So long as you’re not literally walking around Grand Central Station or a Mall armed with a fixed blade (I’m an exception. * coughs *), you’ll survive.
6)
What is said to you, stays with you.
Kind of goes back to Number One.
7)
Accept disappointment.
8 )
Accept emotions when writing or not.
9)
It is not wise to learn detachment. Submerse yourself in the atmosphere. If it bothers you, then it will effect the reader.
10)
Make sure to bombard at least three people a day with your work.
11)
Teach to the best of your ability by passing on your failures to someone else. After all, we learn more from failure than success. Do not skimp out and become lazy. We are the future generations; do not forget.
12)
If, by some chance, you wish to use a personal detail that was entrusted for you to keep in a story, etc., write it first, 1 let them read the work for themselves2, explain the reasoning why you’ve chosen to bring forth their secrets 3, and lastly, ask permission if you might be able to make the document public. 4
1 Normally, I would suggest asking permission first but then there’s that “whole confrontation thing.” So long, as you have not made the writing public, as in, not sharing it with anyone else but the person you are expressing personal information from to base your document on.
2 It’s important that once you’ve written the document, you share it with this person and let them read it for themselves. It might not be a bad idea to give them a “head’s up” even before they begin, ‘pending of course on the subject. To reiterate, it’s imperative that you let them read what you’ve created. By this method, you’re still acknowledging the trust factor given to you, and thus the person will understand.
3 Depending on the subject and what “secrets” that were entrusted within you to maintain and the relationship with said friend or family member, there might be some confliction. BE PREPARED. However, if you followed Rule Number One, than there shouldn’t be much conflict because you’ve still maintained the “trust factor.”
There are many solutions of how to go about the reasoning. My suggestion, from personal experience, is do not use the excuse, “Well, I am a writer of course.” That is just rude and blatant disregard of respect. By that statement, you are essentially saying, “I’m a writer so I’ll do whatever I please.” Not good. Instead, be honest with them. Tell them you were inspired to write such a profound piece of work. It is true, is it not? That’s why we all write, yes? We were inspired to do so by some level. In my position, it’s usually me confronting a friend. My solution is I tell them openly that I didn’t want to forget and then further explain that words are much more powerful and when written correctly; the story becomes alive.
“I was inspired to write this piece from what you told me. I guess I just felt moved and so I hope you don’t mind. If it bothers you though, I will erase the document. I just couldn’t get [it] out of my head.”
Yes. You must also be willing to commit to erasing your hard earned work if they request it to be demolished.
4 In the likely event they’ve granted permission (Yippee!), after you’ve asked, of course, it’s probably wise to change names or even places to respect privacy. Unless of course, the person doesn’t give a rat’s arse.
And there you have it folks; my Twelve Commandments; my laws before ever beginning a story. As you might have noticed, I put quite a bit of emphasis on privacy but as I said before, it’s very much important to me that I don’t become so quite caught up in the story that I accidently leak personal information.
What are your Laws/Commandments? : )
