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The Bitter Homeschooler's Wish List

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  1. Found this in a homeschooling magazine. It's geared towards adults, but I still found it to be relevant. ;)

    1: Please stop asking us if it's legal. If it is--and it is-- it's insulting to imply that we're criminals. And if it we were criminals, would we admit it?

    2: Learn what the words "socialize" and "socialization" mean, and use the one you really mean instead of mixing them up the way you do now. Socializing means hanging out with other people for fun. Socialization means having acquired the skills necessary to do so successfully and pleasantly. If you're talking to me and my kids, that menas that we do in fact go outside now and then to visit the other human beings on the planet, and you can safely assume that we've got a decent grasp of both concepts.

    3: Quit interrupting my kid at her dance lesson, scout meeting, choir practice, baseball game, art class, field trip, park day, music class, 4H club, or soccer practice to ask her if as a homeschooler she ever gets to socialize.

    4: Don't assume hat every homeschooler you meet is homeschooling for the same reasons and in the same way as that one homeschooler you know.

    5: If that homeschooler you know is actually someone you saw on TV, either on the news or on a 'reality' TV show, the above goes double.

    6: Please stop telling us horror stories about the homeschoolers you know, know of, or think you might know, who ruining their lives by homeschooling. You're probably the same bluebird of happiness whose hobby is running up to pregnant woman and inducing premature labor by telling them every ghastly birth story you've ever heard. We all hate you, so please go away.

    7: We don't look horrified and start quizzing your kids when we hear they're in public school. Please stop drilling our children like potential oil fields to see if we're doing what you consider an adequate job of homeschooling.

    8: Stop assuming that all homeschoolers are religious.

    9: If we are religious, stop assuming that we must be homeschooling for religious reasons.

    10: We didn't go through all the reading, learning, thinking, weighing of options, experiment, and worrying that going into homeschooling just to annoy you. Really. This was a deeply personal decision, tailored to the specifics of our family. Stop taking the bare fact of our being homeschoolers as either an affront or a judgment about you own educational decisions.

    11: Please stop questioning my competency and demanding to see my credentials. I didn't have to complete a course in catering to successfully cook dinner for my family; I don't need a degree in teaching to educate my children. If spending at least twelve years in teh kind of chew-it-up-and-spit-it-out educational facility we call public school left me with so little information in my memory banks that I can't teach the basics of an elementary education to my nearest and dearest, maybe there's a reason I'm so reluctant to send my child to school.

    12: If my kid's only six and you ask me with a straight face how I can possible teach him what he'd learn in school, please understand that you're calling me an idiot. Don't act shocked if I decided to respond in kind.

    13: Stop assuming that because the word 'home' is right there is 'homeschool', we never leave the house. We're the ones who go to the amusement parks, museums, and zoos in the middle of the week and in the off-season and laugh at you because you have to go on weekends and holidays when it's crowded and icky.

    More coming soon!
  2. This is a riot! I love point 7. I was asked that all the time from people my age!

    There had better be more!
  3. Haha, this was great. I love number three and thirteen, and eight is so true for me.
  4. Ok, here is the rest of it. I just realized I forgot to mention that this was written by Deborah Markus in issue 1 of Secular Homeschooling Magazine.

    There. Here it is. ;)

    14 Stop assuming that because the word "school" is right there in homeschool, we must sit around at a desk for six or eight hours every day, just like your kid does. Even if we're into the "school" side of education — and many of us prefer a more organic approach — we can burn through a lot of material a lot more efficiently, because we don't have to gear our lessons to the lowest common denominator.

    15 Stop asking, "But what about the Prom?" Even if the idea that my kid might not be able to indulge in a night of over-hyped, over-priced revelry was enough to break my heart, plenty of kids who do go to school don't get to go to the Prom. For all you know, I'm one of them. I might still be bitter about it. So go be shallow somewhere else.

    16 Don't ask my kid if she wouldn't rather go to school unless you don't mind if I ask your kid if he wouldn't rather stay home and get some sleep now and then.

    17 Stop saying, "Oh, I could never homeschool!" Even if you think it's some kind of compliment, it sounds more like you're horrified. One of these days, I won't bother disagreeing with you any more.

    18 If you can remember anything from chemistry or calculus class, you're allowed to ask how we'll teach these subjects to our kids. If you can't, thank you for the reassurance that we couldn't possibly do a worse job than your teachers did, and might even do a better one.

    19 Stop asking about how hard it must be to be my child's teacher as well as her parent. I don't see much difference between bossing my kid around academically and bossing him around the way I do about everything else.

    20 Stop saying that my kid is shy, outgoing, aggressive, anxious, quiet, boisterous, argumentative, pouty, fidgety, chatty, whiny, or loud because he's homeschooled. It's not fair that all the kids who go to school can be as annoying as they want to without being branded as representative of anything but childhood.

    21 Quit assuming that my kid must be some kind of prodigy because she's homeschooled.

    22 Quit assuming that I must be some kind of prodigy because I homeschool my kids.

    23 Quit assuming that I must be some kind of saint because I homeschool my kids.

    24 Stop talking about all the great childhood memories my kids won't get because they don't go to school, unless you want me to start asking about all the not-so-great childhood memories you have because you went to school.

    25 Here's a thought: If you can't say something nice about homeschooling, shut up!
  5. 14 Stop assuming that because the word "school" is right there in homeschool, we must sit around at a desk for six or eight hours every day, just like your kid does. Even if we're into the "school" side of education — and many of us prefer a more organic approach — we can burn through a lot of material a lot more efficiently, because we don't have to gear our lessons to the lowest common denominator.


    Oh gosh YES! xD My friends on the street asked how I could possibly get through all my schooling in just a few hours every day. Try telling them this when some basic concepts went over their heads. ;)

    15 Stop asking, "But what about the Prom?" Even if the idea that my kid might not be able to indulge in a night of over-hyped, over-priced revelry was enough to break my heart, plenty of kids who do go to school don't get to go to the Prom. For all you know, I'm one of them. I might still be bitter about it. So go be shallow somewhere else.


    A girl in my college asked me this. It was rather odd, since she sounded a bit shallow, and I had something similar to this as my answer.

    18 If you can remember anything from chemistry or calculus class, you're allowed to ask how we'll teach these subjects to our kids. If you can't, thank you for the reassurance that we couldn't possibly do a worse job than your teachers did, and might even do a better one.


    Some of the enrichment programs out there are honours courses and, in some areas, are accepted college credit. ^^ (Dive Into Science was such a program. If you didn't mind the religion, it was a pretty awesome course)

    24 Stop talking about all the great childhood memories my kids won't get because they don't go to school, unless you want me to start asking about all the not-so-great childhood memories you have because you went to school.


    ... I'm going to be so tempted to do this next time somebody asks me if I regret missing out. (In college, actual college, so I'm around people who can and probably will ask me this.)

    And, for the "quit assuming" list, I have (this will be written from a student's perspective) "Quit assuming my mom teaches me everything. Don't you go out and learn stuff on your own periodically?" (And the answer to that would be... ;))
  6. Haha. My personal favorite is 16, since it happens ALL the time.
  7. Number 13 is my all time favorite...it's so true! One time we went to the beach, I think it was in may... at 6am to see the sunrise, and we sat and watched it come up, and my mom says "You know right now if you were in school, you'd be waiting at the bus stop?" Then we laughed and ran off to build a sand castle. :D
  8. So true! I don't really know which one I like the best! :P
  9. This was too funny and so true! Oh and another stereotype I can't stand people make about homeschoolers is that we sleep until we feel like getting up, then we walk around in over PJ's all day!
  10. So awesome. xD

    Something that happened to me personally was there were children living across the street from us. We got along GREAT, until her parents found out that my family homeschools and doesn't make us take the annual test things that people take in 'normal' school. (I've forgotten the name). BAM! Instant lockout. I wasn't allowed to see her, and she wasn't allowed to see me. They moved out about a year later.
  11. Oh my gosh! You have no idea how many times I've wanted to say "I only go outside once a week for church, and every time we go outside I'm amazed by how big the world is.." just to see how people react! This list made me smile! :)
  12. I actually dealt with a whole bunch of this at camp. It was a nice day, and everyone's talking about how we all need to connect on FaceBook so that we lose contact. Then it happened.

    "I don't have a FaceBook."

    "What do you mean you don't have a FaceBook?"

    "Why do you have a FaceBook?"

    "Because everyone has one."

    "How ironic! That's why I don't have one!"

    "Don't you go to school?"

    "No."

    "Don't you wish you could talk to people then?"

    "I have my list of three friends and I'm happy."

    "Oh my gosh, aren't you lonely?"

    "Were you dropped on your head when you were young."

    "Yes, it cracked my skull and I had to go to the ER."

    "I'm so sorry!"

    So yeah, that was funny. Sure I'm a tad bit of a shut in, but I can avoid all those cliques, and insult people that piss me of but make it look like I'm not doing anything. It's wonderful.

    I felt so bad about the girl that got dropped on her head.
  13. "I have my list of three friends and I'm happy."


    This is so me! XD I have two best friends who I hang out with all of the time. And I would so rather have a couple really good friends than a bunch of friends who I only kind of like or who I can't even trust.

    I could rant more, but this is off topic. Sorry. :|
  14. 15 Stop asking, "But what about the Prom?" Even if the idea that my kid might not be able to indulge in a night of over-hyped, over-priced revelry was enough to break my heart, plenty of kids who do go to school don't get to go to the Prom. For all you know, I'm one of them. I might still be bitter about it. So go be shallow somewhere else.


    My reply? I spend grades 9-12 in a K-12 school, which had not a few physically-disabled students. How is a prom even feasible under such circumstances?
  15. 13: Stop assuming that because the word 'home' is right there is 'homeschool', we never leave the house. We're the ones who go to the amusement parks, museums, and zoos in the middle of the week and in the off-season and laugh at you because you have to go on weekends and holidays when it's crowded and icky.
    ~ Haha, this is *so* me and my best friend. We have to drive past a public high school on the way to the ski resort we go to (all day Tuesdays, when homeschoolers get a discount); we tend to thumb our noses and laugh at the poor souls inside.

    21 Quit assuming that my kid must be some kind of prodigy because she's homeschooled.
    ~ I also love this one. I don't know how to respond when people say, "Oh, you're homeschooled? You must be really smart."

    ...it's tempting to say "Why yes, yes I am." xD ;)


Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
— Albert Einstein