Life of Kayla.. XxX blog

For my first blog I need your help...
What if you have two best friends, and they got into a fight because of what you did. Both of them say that you cant always be the peace maker in things and they also says that you could either choose between them or you could forget about both of them. But you think that you can try and make things better... so if you had to loose them both they could always look back on a great friendship.
What would you do?
Choose one of them only to be loyal, but that means losing the other? Or you could try and make things better even though it means losing them both?
What would you do? love to hear what you think!
Write soon...

Kayla

Let them sort it out themselves. Cut yourself out of the picture and ignore them for a while. As much as you'd love to be the peace maker, you can't-not this time, anyway. S and L are being cruel if they are asking you to chose between them. A good friend doesn't do that...So, back away a bit. Remember it's not your fault Kayla (Even if you did start it, but still...)

Auteur wrote:Let them sort it out themselves. Cut yourself out of the picture and ignore them for a while. As much as you'd love to be the peace maker, you can't-not this time, anyway. S and L are being cruel if they are asking you to chose between them. A good friend doesn't do that...So, back away a bit. Remember it's not your fault Kayla (Even if you did start it, but still...)

Thanks!
I really wish I'd talked to you earlier, S moved away yesterday...
Dont really think I would see her again..

That's what we call an ultimatum. Ultimatums are bad. That's also what we would call manipulation. Manipulation is also bad. "Stop being friends with them, or I won't be your friend anymore" in such a petty context is, well, kinda petty.

There's no reason why you couldn't be friends with both of them, even if they decide they never want to see each other again. They have every right to make that decision for themselves, but no right or power, really, to make you follow suit.

Give them space to work it out between themselves. If they do, then fine. If not, oh well. However, the immediate response to such a choice is, "Pft. Neither, if you're both going to be that way." Really, who wants to hang out with someone who's trying to manipulate them like that? And from the looks of the post, looks like it's working. Give them space and time to cool off. Then, maybe when/if they're back in friend mode again, you can all go out and grab a burger.

Kayla, why haven't you been telling me these things...? I cant believe that they are doing this again, L has always been manipulative and expective, and S is normally okay.

Just do what Auteur and Dreamer said. Or follow what you want to do, your life, your choice.