Hi! I know that criticism against the LGBTQ community is sadly, still prevalent, but since I may be like that myself, I wonder how I would face those challenges. People are mocked for their choice in unconventional pronouns, and where I'm at's diversity levels, being cis and straight is still very much the norm.
If I am in fact pansexual (and a somewhat unconventional undecided gender identity), I wonder how I'd come out to my parents. What type of criticism or hate would you get from whether it would be your friends, peers, or friends?
Criticism on identity & coming out
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If I can add, I feel like my fear of getting rejected/the view of me changed is increasing every time my brain yells at me to say something about this.
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Well, first and foremost your safety is what matters most. If putting out will put you in any physical or mental danger or puts you at risk for things like homelessness or being attacked, then it's better to not come out until you're in a better position.
Outside of that, it really just depends on where you're at. When I was living in Lexington, which has a more substantial queer community both on and off my college campus, I came out and was heavily accepted. Most people used by preferred pronouns and called me by my preferred name. Coming home to my family and my hometown, not so much. It really just depends on your family and your friends.
I am mostly answering this from a gender identity standpoint as that's what I'm most familiar with when it comes to coming out. Best case scenario, of course, is that everybody respects who you are, your name and your pronouns. Worst case scenario, you're put in physical danger. Mostly likely scenario is that people just aren't going to get it. They're going to deadname and misgender you, whether on purpose or because they forget or because they're not used to it yet.
As far as the coming out as pansexual, about the same goes. Best case scenario, people accept it and move on. There might be a few homophobes who call you names or refuse to keep being friends with you and you can't let those people get to you because they don't matter.
All in all, it's mostly just feeling as you go. Start by telling a close friend or, if you want, a parent. Again, as long as your safety is secure first and foremost, everything else should be okay. I'm not saying you're not going to get an adverse reaction because you might and that'll really suck, but all you can do is hope for the best. -
Thank you so much for your reply <3
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