“Hey! How are you my friend?” my long lost school soul asked me, whom I bumped on way to INOX movie theater.
Shit! I’ve seen this face, I thought and racked my brain nerves for few brief seconds trying to recall the name of familiar face in front of me. Nothing came to my mind!
“I’m doing well buddy” came out of my mouth with formalities. Finally, I was able to recall his face, but not name. All I remember was that he belonged to my class once, may be a classmate, but never within our friend circle. Therefore, I continued with formalities “What about you? How’s you life? And by the way, where are lovebirds Pallavi and Anubhav?” I enquired with a hope that, he remembered famous couple of our school; they both were always in limelight that everyone knew in our school.
“Well, everything’s fine. I think they both are in Delhi pursuing degree from DU” he answered lamely. “Hey, are you on facebook?” suddenly he flashed me with a FAQ, as if he was desperately trying to increase his Farmville neighbors and MAFIA gang loitering around in mall and adding familiar faces.
“Of course!” I replied.
“Then, don’t forget to add me” he insisted “it’s Abhishek Puria”
“For sure!” I nodded and waved goodbye. At least, I was able to know his name without making him aware. I watched him leaving the place making me ponder about old school days. When I attended lectures like almost invisible to everyone. No one knew me except school watchman and bus conductor.
This might have happened with you as well. When, you might have met someone after a long time. In that case you might spend few minutes catching up on each others lives, exchanging news about common friends, sharing few laughs and recalling good times. You might exchange phone numbers or even joyously arrange a get-together at a future date. But you probably wouldn’t automatically start rattling off every detail of every place you’ve been and every new friend you have made in last decade.
Imagine now that instead of walking up to that friend you found his profile on Social networking site like facebook, Orkut or any other in automatic suggestion just by chance and send him a message and invitation. You’ve most probably just handed him not only an entire summary of the activities of your life, but also access to your photos and videos, personal thoughts, group memberships, and list of other friends-and all this despite not knowing the first thing about what he’s been up to and who his friends are. A few days after he adds you, you see you have friend requests from dozen other former classmates, none of whom you were particularly good friends with or would ever consider contacting yourself. They say your name pop up in there news feed, since your old friend was on there lists. Now all of these semi-random acquaintances know you have an active profile and you feel awkward about ignoring them. You just click ‘Accept’
Each one of them can now see very last detail of your life.
That one branch spawned a dozen other branches and each of those dozen could spawn another dozen. Like the root of the tree, your online connection can quickly grow into vast, overlapping, complicated network of interconnected strands, and you will quickly loose control over not only you’re connected to, but who can steal your information to make your life miserable.
Your photos could be copied, altered and reposted online. Your email address could be harvested by spammers or your parents could one day mortify you by leaving comments on your friends’ updates! All of this is possible with social networking. I don't play Mafia Wars. I don't post hundreds of pix. But, I keep in touch with the people I care about much easier than without it. That's my opinion! That’s my style to stay safe!
Interaction with the real world is always better than interaction on the internet in a fake setting like in a social networking site. I think that these social networking sites are making people so antisocial that they don't want to talk in school or in life. You won't become social by talking on facebook, Orkut and other SNS. You could fake being social on those sites but in reality you have to face other people. I think that these sites are messing with the development of the newer generation's brains. Facebook is to socializing, what masturbation is to sex.
Myspace,facebook,Twitter,Hi5, Orkut, and dozen of others mainstream or niche social networking are vast, open playgrounds where people freely posted about the most intimate details of there life. The threat of stalker is very real. I remember my one 19 year old friend from Mumbai who prefers to remain unnamed was repeatedly send friend requests on Facebook by the stranger over the course of seven months. She didn’t know who the person was and kept declining. His profile had a film starts photo with absurd caption-Europa Lover, with no clue about she might know him. They had no mutual friends and his profile showed only 8 connections, implying that account had been made solely for the purpose of sending messages anonymously. The request then started including remarks about her that included references to places she had recently visited and al least one extremely vulgar comment about her partying and drinking.
After frantically checking all her security setting to make sure her updates weren’t visible to strangers, she realized that photo tagged with her name was visible not only to friends, but also strangers tagged in the same photo and their friends! That meant any photos taken at parties where it’s impossible to know everyone, and which has been helpfully tagged by a friend, were visible to that friend’s friend too-which meant she had absolutely no idea how many people could see the and who they where. The girl eventually used Ignore and flag feature to repot abuse, but still has no idea whether the stranger was someone she’d ever met or who might someday recognize her in public. It's a world where everything moves fast and changes all the time, where relationships are quickly disposed at the click of a mouse, where you can delete your profile if you don't like it, and swap an unacceptable identity in the blink of an eye for one that is more acceptable.
For 16-year-old Pia, a junior in Delhi Public, School, hanging out with friends often means "just sitting and watching each other talk online." Sometimes they make definite plans to actually do something in person, like going to a movie. But, mostly their friendships are online.
Pia is hardly alone. Technology is so integrated into GenTech teens lives that it's difficult to measure where their offline life begins and their online life ends. For many teens like Pia, checking Facebook,Orkut or MySpace or is the first and last thing they do each day. They pack 38 hours of activity into a day-work, chat, browse, talk, SMS, twitter, facebook, smoke, drink.
For example, it saddens us to hear 16-year olds say that they would rather break up with their girlfriend/boyfriend by texting, IM-ing or posting on their Facebook wall than tell them in person (or over the phone). When asked why, they'll tell you "because it's easier. We are the original facebook generation"
Another example, twenty one year old Delhi resident Radhika was left red-faced after he boyfriend’s mother gave her a stern lecture about drinking one day. Once again, the culprit was a Facebook photo gallery. “I wanted to run home and untag myself from every photo I’d ever been in, even if it meant my friends would never be able to find me. But the damage had already been done” she cried to me online.
Our students, though very knowledgeable about using technology, are often naive and easily manipulated (though they would hate to think so). A simple example is a scam that hit Facebook users. Many teens had their accounts phished and the phishers sent out posts from those accounts to their friends that said "OMG! There are some photos of you on this website", along with a link to the website. The website showed hazy photos in the background that were hard to make out and appeared to be somewhat pornographic. A popup told the visitor they would have to register for an account in order to view photos on the site. We're certain that many kids were tricked into revealing a lot of personal information about themselves in this scam. Kids are easily fooled. They want to believe what is said to them, especially when it appears that others believe.
The amount of information about you that’s just readily available to strangers is staggering, but the situation is actually getting even more dangerous. With a little knowledge about appropriate hacking commands, IP address could be easily tracked which in turn reveals user’s approximate location with the help of Geobytes.com
Usually people have generated tendency to make fake profile apart from original one. With help of it they sneak-peek, spy, monitor, collect information, and they interfere in personnel life of others and do numerous other evil things which they only know.
According to latest survey, every third person has a fake profile. Therefore, biggest problem on Social Networking Sites are filthy fake profiles. With average number of one hundred thirty friends, neither I nor you can tell which are real or fake. Still we keep on counting them, talk them, share them, and trust them. Thinking one self intelligent, millions of people have made fake profile forgetting the gospel truth “One day rat meets cat, cat meets dog, dog meets wolf, wolf meets lion and lion will finally meet human one day.” I’ve learned that, sweetest fantasy to worst nightmare is possible until we are online. Now it’s your turn!
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Hope you enjoyed reading.
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