I've always been curious about the LBTQ community [if not entirely supportive at the time], and when I ran into sites such as Y.W.S, with openly queer folk, I started to wonder if I truly was cis.
Around this time I developed a crush or at least a squishy on a close friend of mine. It didn't hit until my mom remarked 'you almost never mention your friends to me. What's special about this one?' after I mentioned said friend to her.
When she asked that I was like 'Oh. Maybe she's not just a friend.'
So, I ain't cis, but I'm still very much questioning.
I don't enjoy having a female body, but she/her pronouns are comfortable for me and identify with that...I suppose you could call it feminine 'evil queen' 'boss b**h' or 'mean girl' energy (the songs Can't Be Tamed, Take a Hint, or Woman Up best describe the vibe I'm talking about). But at the same time the stereotypical idea of manliness or 'macho' appeals to me. Despite that, I don't feel feminine, or masculine, I feel like myself. I'd rather be seen as me then having a specific gender.
My romantic attraction was fairly simple-I'm comfortable dating anyone of any gender identity. It just doesn't matter to me. I have noticed however, that I'm more at ease with woman. It takes more time for me to get comfortable with men.
How and when did you find your label, or are you still questioning?
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Okay, so my way to find my labels was kinda long and I am still not really sure about everything.
I always knew that I like both girls and boys (and non-binary folk too
), so bisexual umbrella is something natural for me. But there is still a lot of questions - I am probably also somewhere on aro-ace spectrum.
I am cis-girl and at the moment it fits. Some time ago I was kind of questioning demigirl, and I still like to use she/they, but gender identity is not really moving somewhere at the time. But I am opened to change, since my way to look at myself changes a lot sometimes.
And absolutly most fitting labels right now? Probably demiromantic bisexual. But to be honest, more I know about labels, more I feel like I was trying to fit myslef into some box. People around me are not supportive (that is just a mindset in my country, but it slowly changes - thanks to Gen Z), and I know that if I comed out to them, they would be just like...well, very labeling. I am not sure, if I explained it well. I am probably just vibing with the idea of "spectrum" not "label for right now. -
So I always knew I wasn't straight but I wasn't able to find an accurate label up until recently. Same thing with gender identity, it took me almost 7 years to figure out my identity and sexuality. I actually just found a label that I believe suits me really well. I'm a neoboy and I'm aroace
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I had a Really Bad Crush on my best friend in 7th grade, and at the time she identified as bisexual. Before that, I didn't even really know gay people existed? Since I had had crushes on guys and obviously really liked this girl, I decided that bisexual was the right label for me. Now it's been two years and I am...HEAVILY questioning whether I like guys or not.
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Well, things are still changing a lot for me, but what stays it’s that I’m definitely bi. I feel like there was a pretty big possibility that I’m actually somewhere on aromatic spectrum but heck, finding labels there’s hard. And about gender identity…well, I’m starting to vibe with nonbinary umbrella a lot lately.
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update! i kissed a girl (and i liked it), it made me realize that's something i'd never want to do with a guy. in fact, i didn't even really find guys attractive--for the most part, i wanted to be friends with them or i felt like i HAD to like them. (it's called compulsive heterosexuality, and it's something i've finally realized i was pressured by.) now, i am a proud lesbian <3
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i went though a lot of back and fourth with myself if i was Bi or Pan(or if i was just an ally), but i soon settled on that i was Bi! the gender part is harder since i'm still questioning myself about that, but i've decided that i'm Bigender. (but that may change as i'm still questioning it.)
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So! I’m genderqueer, which for me means that I’m somewhere outside of strictly binary and vibe a lot with androgyny
(I used to go with nonbinary but genderqueer somehow fits better)
I figured out I’m ace - biromantic and demiromantic? Demibiromantic? Something like that. And for the first time in what feels like millenias (around 3 years :P) I have labels that just… fit. Like yeah, that’s some nice progress with feeling good with my identity!
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