So, I'm writing this just a day after officially identifying myself as asexual bi-romantic. Was wondering how you guys all found out what your sexuality/gender was. For those of you that are allies, you can just say how you discovered LGBTQ+.
So I'd been thinking for a really long time about what exactly my sexuality was. I looked up the different sexualities and found asexual bi-romantic, which described how I felt exactly: Not sexually attracted to anyone, but willing to hug, cuddle, or even date both boys and girls. I asked my friend how he came out to his parents when he found out he was transgender, and he said that he told them as soon as he could. My parents are very understanding and supportive of the LGBTQ community, so I told them the very same day I confirmed it.
How Did You Find Out?
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I worked out that I was transgender a long long time before I worked out I was gay. I consciously worked out I hated being a girl when I was ten or eleven, but I had subconsciously thought of myself as a boy all along, if that makes sense? It happened surprisingly suddenly thanks to my primary school's sex-ed. At first, I thought it was normal to feel that way, but by secondary school I had worked out that no, most people didn't feel like I did.
I spent about four years trying to ignore it, and then finally made peace with it and told my awesome parents this summer. It caused me quite a bit of trouble - I came very close to suicide about two years ago, and a year later I tried to run away from boarding (key word: tried). I'm now, finally, doing something about it.
I worked out and that I was gay about a year and a half ago, after much deliberating. It was way easier for me to come to terms with being gay, rather than being trans. The film Pride helped a lot (haven't seen it? 10/10 would recommend - even if you're not gay). -
I think I figured out I was bisexual when I was playing The Game of Life around age three when I got married and my older cousin pulled one of the little blue people out of the bag to put in my car but I decided that this time I wanted on of the pink ones instead. My cousin patiently explained to me that the blue ones were boys an the pink ones were girls. I said I knew that but that I could marry a girl if I wanted. My lesbian cousin (who married a woman about five years later) told me that I could marry whoever I wanted. No one else contradicted me about who I loved after that.
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I figured out that I was bisexual yesterday, actually. I realized I had a crush on a girl at school and I've had crushes on boys before so yep I'm bi.
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I found out when I was sitting at the lunch table, staring at a girl and I realized that I had a crush on her.
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I figured out that I was bisexual a couple years ago when my dads partner was talking about stuff because Pride was coming up, and I had been thinking about it for awhile so that's when I realized. (Before that, I remember thinking: "everybody likes boys AND girls right???" and writing "I think I'm gay" in my diary lmao.) Then it later switched to pansexual when I learned about the gender binary.
I realized I was trans/genderqueer when I met my trans ex (who wasn't my ex at the time lol he was my boyfriend.) I started questioning my gender and reading up more stuff on queer articles and blogs.
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Going into deatail, I kept it to myself for a whole three days (my record) and finally told my friends at a sleepover. I told my bestie at dance, and currently, only four people know.
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When I was six I cut my hair into a awkward bob after being told I couldn't play for the local football team because I wasn't a boy. I remember crying and screaming and blaming my parents for not letting me be a boy. It was an ultimate temper tantrum and one of my clearest earlier memories.
That night I scribbled all over three different notebooks that I WAS a boy.
It's a surprise to me that I hadn't realised sooner to be perfectly honest. I was very stereotypically masculine. I loved comics, football, Vikings and pirates.
I have this picture up in my room from when it was dress up day at school. I had my awkward bob tucked into a blood red bandana and a foam sword in hand. My little sister on the other hand looked like she'd just stepped out from an old Disney film with her flowing blonde hair and puffy sparkly dress.
Yep, I'm surprised my parents didn't realise sooner.
When I moved up to big school however I suppressed myself and was eventually diagnosed with clinical depression.
Those first few years couldn't have been worse. I tried to convince myself I was a girl because I didn't believe transgender people existed. (I even wore a skirt!)
Then One of my dad's friends came out as female and everything clicked inside my mind. I WAS a boy.
First, I came out as Bi in an attempt to test the waters a bit and then I summoned up the courage to come out properly.
I told them I was "Demi-male" (I still wasn't 100% sure of my identity).
It has taken me three years from that point to feel completely happy with my gender and I still have no clue about my sexuality. XD
Everyone's stories are so interesting and I've loved reading them all. Knowing how much courage it takes to come out to yourself, you are all the bravest people I know, thanks for sharing. I'm super proud of you all! Thank you for starting this @RavenLord -
No prob, bro.
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@RavenLord I don´t meet many people like me. Only one person I know is lesbian, and I don´t even know if she is anymore. Thank you so much for creating this club. It´s a safe place where I can be myself!
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(How did I never find this!?)
So it started when I was ten. I started getting really uncomfortable in my body, not to mention I started puberty that year, too. I thought it was wrong so for a year in a half I never told anyone I felt more masculine than feminine or that I had started developing feelings for girls. I think the worst part back then was knowing this one girl who really put pressure on all of the other girls to sexualize themselves, so I was always trying to look and act a certain way just to fit in. That's also around the time I stopped wearing skirts and started developing a hatred toward pink. I was so lost because I felt one way and everyone else was "normal." So I ended up ignoring it until sixth grade.
In sixth grade I realized that blood coming out from between my legs and these things growing on my chest were STILL foreign to me and I didn't understand why I had them. I mean I understood but I hated that I got stuck with them. I let that pass too, I figured it was normal and I guess I ignored it again.
So this year is the year I finally came clean with myself, friends, and some family. At first I was learning these random lgbt+ words all over the place and I my first reaction was hold on there ISN'T anything wrong with me? But it was just the general ones so I assumed I was trans and bi. I thought I must be trans because no matter what amount of time past so much of my body still felt uncomfortable and wrong and foreign. I looked into it more and since I hadn't came out to my parents yet, my mom still took me to buy girly clothes, get my nails done, talk about feminine things and I was okay with that because it was normal. Then I learned about gendernutrual and fluid. I thought since a lot of my life was still consumed with "girl things" I was probably genderfluid. And I learned about pansexual, romantic, ace, and aro after that. I came to the solid conclusion that i'm panro and ace because the idea of "it" is gross and is generally appealing to me.
So I guess that brings us to now. I think being a boy is something I'm more comfortable with and is a solid decision that I've made. But I've started to think I might be a demiboy because when i was fluid i was usually agender or boy...
either way, i still paint my nails black and wear earrings and tons of (band) bracelets XP
~short.n.emo.demiboy
lol that looks like a youtubers name
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