Have you ever had one of those experiences where God speaks so clearly it's like He's posted road signs for you? Or, I guess if you don't believe in God, have you ever had one of those experiences where the entire freaking UNIVERSE seems to be screaming at you to do something? Where everything you hear, read, and see seems to validate your decision?
I had one of those.
I realized the other night that the college I'm registered for is the college that I chose because I wanted to make my parents happy. It's a prestigious college - not like Harvard or anything - but it's pretty hard to get into. I was proud of it. My parents were proud of it. And I was all ready to go.
Until the other night I realized that I didn't want to.
I realized that I had chosen that college not really for myself, but for my family and for the satisfaction it would give both me and them. I chose it because I wanted to prove to them that I could do it; that I could be accepted and I could leave my hometown and my friends and my boyfriend. I wanted to show them that I was tough enough.
They were thrilled, needless to say. My mom loved the idea of me being alone 2000 miles away. She loved the idea of me stretching myself. My dad loved that he got to tell his coworkers that his daughter was accepted to a great school. I loved that they were happy.
But I wasn't happy. I realized that the other night. I realized that I wanted to go to a different college, one that was a little closer, one I had been thinking about all along but I had never considered because it wasn't prestigious enough for my parents. When I went out to visit the first college, everything in me was screaming that it was all wrong. I didn't listen until two nights ago, when I broke down and God told me that I had to live my own life.
I fasted and prayed the next day. Again, I know some of you are totally not religious, but when you're worried about something, sometimes it's a good idea not to eat. I was so nauseous. I sat and read my Bible, I prayed, I talked to friends, I read some devotionals... and everything I read, everything I heard on the radio, every random page of an inspirational book said something about following the path God had revealed, about living your own life, about following your own heart over the plans and wishes of others. Over and over and over. For hours and hours these things just kept pouring into my life, in the form of words and books and songs and friends...it was overwhelming. It was scary. And I knew what I had to do.
I just finished what I call Round 2 of the war. My parents are not happy about my decision. The college I've chosen happens to be the one my boyfriend is going to, and they're convinced that he asked me to come with him. I can't get through to them at all. My dad thinks I'm being immature and irresponsible, and he keeps telling me "You're going to the college you chose first. I don't care. You're going." And I keep telling him Sorry, Dad, but ultimately I'm going to have to do what I feel is right.
I'm losing weight. I can't eat a lot. I've been feeling a little sick recently from fighting all the time. I NEVER disobey my parents - it's just not the kind of person I am, and so it's been hard. But I know this is right.
So, that was a very long post just to ask you guys to keep me in your thoughts and prayers. I want to live my life, not the life that makes my family happy. Please, any advice or prayers or encouragement would be great.
Thanks.
~Sunny
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