You’re getting your life together, right now. I don’t care if you have soccer practice, or homework, if it’s easier to just sit in your room and cry. I’m here to help you; think of me not as a grumpy teacher, or an angry boss, but as a friend. Together, we’re going to combat life’s problems, and personal struggles, as well as ways to overcome that horrible, pessimistic, nagging voice in our minds.
Welcome to ‘Getting Your Life Together-Day 1: Intro/Realization’.
Now that my little intro is over, I have a tough question to ask.
How are you? The default answer would be ‘fine’.
‘Leave me alone’.
Those answers simply won’t do today. As your friend, I need you to address the truth. You don’t have to tell me, but if you clicked on this page, you are not fine. The problem is that we all have different experiences, and this leads many of us to believe we are the only ones with those experiences; we isolate ourselves. Are you struggling financially and can’t get your feet up off of the ground? You might feel you’re the only one without money. How about those toxic friends leading you to bad decisions? Surely you’re the only one with them. Or that argument that keeps digging a deep hole in your mind and heart? Everyone else seems to be so peaceful and happy right now.
You’re the only imperfect one, right? Wrong. I know there are days when we see that perfect person on Instagram and/or TikTok, with the blonde hair, a boyfriend, already with her own house/apartment, living out her days of sweater weather, iced lattes, and her cute, little fridge restock. No hate, no hate. I just want you to know that she isn’t perfect. She will never be perfect. Neither will you.
So, let’s do this. Grab a piece of paper, fine-tip marker, pen, or something like that. Now, write down 10 of your imperfections. I’ve already done mine. Are there tears on your paper? Good. Those tears just released a lot of emotions I bet you’ve had pent up inside.
Now, you may think I’m going to say to crumple up that paper and throw it away because there’s nothing wrong with you. That is wrong. We are not going to hide from our imperfections. We are not going to pretend everything is fine, because it’s not.
I've dealt with a similar method to 'crumple the paper and throw it away'. I wrote what was wrong with my day on paper, folded it up, and put it in a box. That may work temporarily, but not in the long run. Because, guess what? That thing that's wrong with your day still exists, and you can still grab it from the box or the trash can of your memory.
We aren't going to hide from our problems like that, friends. There are better methods. The first step of that method is realization;
You are imperfect, I am imperfect, and the entire world is ridden with horrible people like you and me. That is the truth; cold and hard.
But, if you are telling yourself you’re ugly? Stop it. If you are telling yourself you’re not worth it? Stop that. You are beautiful(or handsome), and so, so worth it, and there are so many things I could tell you, but you wouldn’t believe me. Just believe me when I say that there is more for you out there.
About that paper. Since you haven’t crumpled it up (you better not have), draw a box beside each and every imperfection. We aren’t going to ‘fix’ you in this series; simply put, together, we are going to give you the power to overcome those imperfections.
This series is going to be based on the ten imperfections I wrote down for myself (it won’t be exact). Of course, we all have different experiences, as I said before. If there’s a topic that you haven’t seen covered and you want to message me about it, feel free! This is a safe space! I won’t judge, and even better, you’ll finally get your guilt/stress/sadness off of your chest! My ten imperfections are pretty common though, so I’ll be covering something most likely on your chest.
Feeling motivated yet? Maybe not. This is a pretty harsh intro, but I think I said what needed to be said.
If you don’t like what I said, then you may be hiding from the truth; a common problem. We don’t like when people say what’s wrong with us, or something we worked hard on, or anything in general like that. Well, let me tell you:
The truth will never change.
You can keep crying; you can keep telling yourself you’re not worth it. You can keep making all the wrong choices, hanging out with all the wrong people, thinking about all the wrong things, and hoping something will change. If you’re doing that? You, my friend, are the definition of a hypocrite.
In this series, we’re going to stand up to those friends, deal with those choices, and set our minds on better things. We are going to make a change, together. I want you to be a part of it. I want to see this community build together for the sake of others! I want us to rid ourselves of the poison we let seep into our hearts. Poison may not always make us die, but it will be painful, choking, and honestly disgusting.
What’s your poison? Let’s find the antidote.
I love you!