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Tue Jun 15, 2010 9:55 pm
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NYCnightowl007 says...



Hey I have a bit of a weird question, so bear with me; Has anyone ever lost a sibling, or known someone that has and doesn't mind talking about it? In my novel, my MC looses his twin sister in a car crash and since I have been fortunate enough to have never gone through something like this, I have no idea what the initial reaction would be. My basic two questions would be how long does it really take to really get over it and what was the initial reaction like? Thanks bunches. :smt001

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Tue Jun 15, 2010 10:59 pm
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Shepherd says...



You don't get over it.

Edited to be more specific on your character's reaction:
Depending on her personality, she could react in any number of ways.
A tentative, withdrawn person will sometimes become uncharacteristically outgoing in an attempt to normalize their life in a more meaningful way. Or, alternatively, he or she could become even more withdrawn. It's all in how your character handles grief and hardship, but amplified a thousand times over.
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Rosendorn says...



Basically, it depends on your character. You can take some basics from real life, but your character will react in their own way to a tragedy such as that. It might take a bit of time to figure out, but take any sort of research you can find on very deep grief and see how it fits with your character.
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Emerson says...



I have a distant relative whose (not twin) sister died in a car wreck with him. He watched her drown (due to the way the car was tilted into the water), and he felt it was his fault.

Very smart man; ended up in an asylum, though, I'm fairly certain. (I never knew him.)
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lilymoore says...



A classmate of mine lost her little brother very early in his life but even then, she was very young. But when we drive around town, nearly every time we pass the cemetary, she mentions her little brother.
It's just something you can't get over.
Never forget who you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.
  








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