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Unicorn Killers will apparently deal with prostitution, marriage, and lovers! Fun? Not really. But still! Since I have someone going from our world to a world where things are slightly different, I would like YOUR opinions on what you think marriage, prostitution, lovers, and other stuff. Sound cool? I hope so!

Please, please, please, PLEASE, do not make this a debate. Otherwise, I will have to kill you. Or something. But seriously, everybody's opinions are valued and the more varied the viewpoints, the happier I'll be.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?

Would you want any children?

Is divorce an option?

Under what circumstances?

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?

...the mother?

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?


Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?


Lovers

Love outside of marriage?

Sex outside of marriage?



So yeah. Kind of long, but feel free to answer any question you like! Any response is welcome (as long as you're not flaming anybody... otherwise, as previously stated, I would have to kill you).

Thanks so much!

Will it be all right if I PM my answer?

In my story prositution is actaully kinda forced because female slaves are put out on street and for marriage no idea. Though i'd feel pretty angry if said person continued after being together with them. I'd be very steamed.

Okey dokey! Haven't answered them all, but here ya go:

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
Whenever you feel ready, I think it varies depending on a person's experiences, relationships, etc. For me, I would say after I have finished university and have a job, so mid twenties. Also, it's never too late! I think anything under twenty is a little early.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?
I would have to be in love with the person and be sure I want to marry them, and that they feel the same. Also I think I would want us to meet each other's family before we got married.

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
Murder? Anything illegal unless there was a very good reason.

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?
Eep. I would be very much against that, I want to choose who I marry becasue I'm crazy in love with them and want to spend the rest of my life with them. I'd want it to be my choice.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
Same again, I think I'd be even more against it if he was older.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
I'd be crushed, but I don't know if I would be able to leave them. Depending who it was with, how long it was going on for. I would know that I should leave them, but it would be very difficult to do.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
Yes, but I don't think I would consider it.

Would you want any children?
Yes. Again, once I have a stable job, etc. In my mid twenties at least.

Is divorce an option?
Yes.

Under what circumstances?
If the relationship has gotten really bad, can't stand being with the other person, if it was an abusive relationship then definitely.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
I would want them to feel like a part of our family, so I would like to spend time with them, to feel accepted by them. Assuming you're talking about them being from his previous marriage.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
No. I'm in a six month relationship, which I don't think is long enough to consider marriage, I've only just finished my first year at university, so now would not be a good time. I'm nineteen, and I think that's too young to be making such a big decision.

Lovers

Love outside of marriage?
I'm in love at the moment and I'm not married. I find it perfectly reasonable and acceptable.

Sex outside of marriage?
Same again. It's not something I frown upon.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
18

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?
Me personally? Ideally I'd like to get to know the person as a friend, then start dating them until a proper time to pop the question!

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
Cheat on them; force them to have sex; lie to them or steal from them; fail to explain issues properly.

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?
House-husband! I could definitely look after the kids...

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?
Well, if I'm the house-husband, I'd guess she'd be the primary earner

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?
Arranged marriages come in all shapes and sizes - in some cultures they are used to force families into union for political/monetary gain, but in others they are simply the term for your parents suggesting good candidates for you until you find one that works - not all 'arranged marriages' are bad, they are merely the product of a society that values practical arrangements as much as the - more western - concept of 'free love.' Who are we to say we are right
/rant

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
Suitability doesn't necessarily come with similar ages; depends who they were.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
Badly - trust is vital to a relationship. I would never cheat on someone I was married to, and my partner doing such a thing would make me seriously reevaluate whether we could trust one another enough to be married, and also whether I was a good enough partner.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
Thought about it, no: sexual impulses and fantasies (of any nature) are human. More than thinking, however, would be absolutely unacceptable and shameful.

Would you want any children?
Absolutely, when the time is right.

Is divorce an option?
Yes.

Under what circumstances?
It being more harmful in the short and long term for the two of us and those around us to stay together than for us to seperate.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
As they were my own.

...the mother?
As above.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
No.


Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?
No

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?
Very little would change.

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?
Amused, curious, wanting to know if it was a problem I could help with.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?
More concerned, with some serious questions of sexual adaquacy and my partner's psychological state.


Lovers

Love outside of marriage?
How are we defining love? Brotherly love: absolutely. Love before marriage to someone: definitely. Long term committed partnership without getting married: why aren't you married?!
I think that love, in more terms than we understand it today (limited to sexual/marital/occasionally a few others), is absolutely necessary in all spheres of society. I want to honestly be able to say that I love my friends and family with my whole heart, holding nothing back, and that I seek to draw as many people as possible into a community that supports and cares for people that way.

Sex outside of marriage?
"Ah, there's the rub."
Yes, but not casually; not something to be given away cheaply. Something very special shared between people with a special connection.

Myth wrote:Will it be all right if I PM my answer?

Of course!

Thanks for all the responses so far.

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
I think this varies from person to person. Legally, I think it should be eighteen, because before that, I doubt you can know for certain you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?
I'd have to be in love with someone I could get along with, we'd both have to be ready to make sacrifices. Also, we'd have to have gone to marriage counseling, or at least had a serious talk about possible problems and how we'd solve them.

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
That depends on who my spouse is. It would be nice to mary someone I'd do anything for.

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?
Well, it would make things simpler.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
It depends on how old. I wouldn't want to marry a seventy-year-old, but a little older would be okay.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
I wouldn't want to know about it, unless there were STD's involved.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
Just thinking about cheating isn't that bad, but I'd feel a little guilty, anyway. I'm almost positive I'd never actually cheat. I'd rather get a divorce or just ignore the person I thought about cheating with.

Would you want any children?
No. I like the idea of them, but I don't think I'd have them. My spouse would have to be okay with that before we got married.

Is divorce an option?
Yes, but it shouldn't be a first resort.

Under what circumstances?
If we're both unhappy with each other, and we've tried to fix it but can't.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
I'd want them a lot.

...the mother?
The other mother? Not so much.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
No way. I change my mind too much.

Would you support prostitution?
I don't know if I'd support it, but I'm not that against it.

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?
It would probably become a lot safer, since it would be taxed and regulated.

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?
If it were legalized, I'd be okay with it.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?
Lousy, like I'm not good enough.

Love outside of marriage?
Unavoidable.

Sex outside of marriage?
Before marriage, it's a personal choice and I'm okay . During marriage, I don't think people should have sex with anyone but their spouses.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
18, though early to mid twenties is more reasonable.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?
Friendship first, then dating, then marriage.

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
For? I couldn't tell you, it all depends upon the person. It sounds rather horrible, but it's true. I think we'd all like to find the "perfect someone" for whom we'd do anything, but the reality just isn't there. So, it depends.

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?
I go stir-crazy very easily. Heck, it's not even the first week of summer and I'm already bored to death. I don't think I could handle raising a family mentally -- I've watched my mother and many friends/friend's mothers do it, and I know I just couldn't deal, at least at this point in my life. I'm happiest working.

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?
Whatever can be done? I think it really depends upon the person. If no kids, then work of some sort.

How would you react with the possibility of an arranged marriage?
There are days I hate the idea, there are days I think it'd make life a whole lot easier. To western culture, it's really considered outrageous, but I can see the sense in it. I don't know how I would ever be happy with someone I was forced to marry, or if I could love him. Then again, I don't know if I could find love on my own. I don't know if I believe in love, even! I'd like it to be true, but I'm a cynic by nature and experience.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
Depends how much older. More than 5 and I'd be creeped out.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
Not well? Honestly, I don't know. It depends if I really love the person or not. It would make me question my sexuality, that's for sure.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
No. Actually... if boyfriends count, I've thought about it. Then again, I didn't really like him. Also, it depends on if the train of thought was triggered by something more -- an argument, a long absence, doubts about his faithfulness.

ould you want any children?
Right now, I want nothing to do with children. Maybe in ten years I'll say differently, though.

Is divorce an option?
Yes, but not first choice.

Under what circumstances?
Extreme ones. (if you want me to elaborate,I will)

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
I think that depends upon the age of the children, the mother (around? no? abusive? etc.). I'd like to say I would love to have them, but I honestly couldn't say that. It'd be a constant reminder that I wasn't the first choice (especially depending how long I've know my spouse).

...the mother?
Awkward. I guess it depends upon the circumstances of the divorce (or whatever it was) -- goes for this and the above question.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
No way in hell, pardon the expression. But no. Not now.


Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?
Um...no.

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?
Huge profit increases. Same with legalized marijuana's and such. Government would make loads more money.

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?
I'd be grossed out, quite frankly. Anyone who needs sex that much...

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?
I would probably break down. I don't think I could handle knowing that I wasn't enough or good enough for someone who married me. And I'll admit, I can be pretty self-centred, especially when it comes to matters of the heart (from my minimal experience). I'd worry about myself first, then the other person. Then again, maybe not. i honestly can't say. I tend to either forget about myself, or ignore everyone else in everything, if that makes any sense (ok, so the former I've been yelled at for, yes, yelled at... and the latter, too, but under different circumstances. I think it stems from the fact that my family hates me if I do anything for myself before others, but my friends yell at me for it, because I tend to break down at school when it gets to be too much... yeah. Um, moving on!)


Lovers

Love outside of marriage?
How are you defining love? Love as in a boyfriend before marriage, or love as in a lover on the side, aka cheating? Love with friends is unavoidable, otherwise why have friends?

Sex outside of marriage?
I say no now, but I don't know.
I mean, it's supposed to be something special. I don't want to just throw myself out there. Then again, I've been told I'm an old-fashioned idealist.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?

It depends. Definitely after college. (I've always assumed I'd go to college, so it's kind of hard to think about life without it.) 20 is my absolute minimum of acceptability. For me, late 20's on, but I'm kinda screwed up when it comes to marriage, so probably never.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?

Love?

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?

Kill myself? Eat foi gras, or however you spell that? It would depend on the person. Unconditional love is hard to come by.

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?

Well... it would make things a lot easier. If I was part of a society that did things that way, and assuming I wasn't in love with anybody else, and if so, that I could still see them, then I doubt I would have much of a problem with it.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?

How much older? An arranged marriage with someone who's 18 is different than 63... but how much? Arranged marriage is arranged marriage. It's easier to have something in common with someone the same age as you. but it's not the biggest deal I can think of.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?

Well, I really don't trust anybody. It would depend how in love I was. If this was that unconditional love we discussed before, it would be divorce. If it was more of a meh relationship, I might get over it. But I might use it as an excuse to divorce out of a meh relationship.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?

Looked at another guy? No. Casually thought? Yeah, but not for very long. Seriously considered? Yes.

Would you want any children?

Maybe one adopted. I wouldn't get pregnant on purpose, but I wouldn't get an abortion either.

Is divorce an option?

Yes.

Under what circumstances?

We figured out we hated each other.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?

...the mother?

It would depend, I guess. Who the kids were, who the mother was. Unless they were God awful, I wouldn't have a problem treating them as my own. As far as the mother goes, though, talk about awkward.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?

15 and no.

Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?

No.

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?

Yeah right. But, well, then I guess it would be legal. I wouldn't hire one, I wouldn't head to the corner in a mini, nor would I rally around the White House with a picket sign, if that's what you're asking.

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?

Uhhh, mildly concerned.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?

Do I really suck that bad in bed?

Lovers

Love outside of marriage?

If you don't ever love anybody ever except your spouse, it's something to worry about.

Sex outside of marriage?

Yup. Once your married, though, only with your spouse.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?

If you're in love then 18 is but personally, I'll wait until I'm at least 23. I want to get through university and stuff first.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?

I have fallen in love, I have tried living with the man, I have been engaged to him, we have met each other's family, we have been together at least a year.

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?

Anything illegal unless it was to save his life and then that would vary for each situation.

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?

I would clean, I would care for the children, I would follow my career and I would cook. Gardening is all his though!

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?

He would work, help look after the children, do the gardening, help with the cooking and help with the cleaning.

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?

Fine if both parties involved are happy but for me? Not unless I loved him and he was willing.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?

Same as above.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?

I'd talk to him about it and then the situation would decide. If there were children involved, I'd want us to stay together. If not, it would depend on how he felt about the other woman, whether he regretted it etc.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?

Of course.

Would you want any children?

Yes. I want children more than anything else. I'd love a boy and twin girls but I certainly want them. I don't know if I could have a relationship with someone who didn't want children.

Is divorce an option?

Yes but preferably not if there are children.

Under what circumstances?

Abuse, he wants it, crime etc.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?

I'd want them to treat me like a second mother.

...the mother?

I'd want to be friends and I'd need tips on handling his bad habits

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?

No. Nowhere near ready.

Prostitution

Never.

Would you support prostitution?

If someone is in a desperate situation or enjoys it then sure, I'm open minded.

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?

I could cope with that.

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?

Okay if it was before.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?

Worried, angry, very bad.

Lovers

Love outside of marriage?

Sure.

Sex outside of marriage?

Yeah, nothing wrong with it.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
Any age as long as you're comfortable with it. But under 16 is illegal....

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
Anything that goes against my beliefs, like eating meat or becoming religious.

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage? Anything and everything. I'd still want a job so housework and stuff would have to be delegated appropriately... Kids would be both our responsibility.

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?
The same stuff that I'd be doing. Working and housework. Looking after kids if we had any.

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?
....Swears loudly. My parents are an arranged marriage and I am totally against it in every way. I'd rather die than have an arranged marriage. It kills your soul.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
Again, no way.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
Divorce........

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
Yes, but I'd never follow it through. Instead I'd think about my marriage and see how I can improve it to stop myself from thinking about cheating.

Would you want any children?
Maybe..

Is divorce an option?
I suppose.

Under what circumstances?
Cheating, no longer even like each other. Better if there are kids involved to be separate than argue all the time.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
A lot, but the father has every right too.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
No way....only fourteen..


Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?
No.


If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?
Distraught.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?
Like I'd want to kill him....I wouldn't though...

Lovers

Love outside of marriage?
Yes. Marriage isn't everything. Everyone should be loved.

Sex outside of marriage?
Yep. Not everyone will get married, so why deprive yourself of intimacy? If it feels right, then go for it.

Overall, I'm not bothered about getting married. I do want kids...but in a loooooong time from now.

Hope that helps,
Alainna
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On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
Over twenty-one as a minimum.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?
I don't know. I'd have to have known him for a while I guess.

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
Anything illegal that is also immoral. And went against my personal beliefs.

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?
I honestly have no idea what I'd be like.

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?
He'd have to cook and clean as I'm nopt very good at either of those things.

How would you react with the possiblity of an arranged marriage?
If it was arranged by my family, not very well. Not very well at all. I think I'd be more curious if my friends were involved.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
If you mean as in very old, then I'd be very disturbed indeed.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
I'd probably think it was my own fault and that I'd done something wrong.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
Probably.

Would you want any children?
After we saw an awful video in our biology class a few months ago, no. No way.

Is divorce an option?
Only as a last resort. I can't really say no; my parents are divorced.

Under what circumstances?
They'd have to be pretty extreme. I suppose not caring any more doesn't count.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
I'd want the kids, then I'd have children without going through childbirth myself.

...the mother?
It all depends on who's the better parent for them.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
I'm 17, I've never been on a date. Personally, i don't think I'll ever get married.


Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?
No.

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?
It would be okay I suppose, there's a lot of prostitues around here, it'd be good if they could get protection, and get cared for. Being in a brothel which can have security is better than being out on the streets alone.

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?
Disturbed.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?
More disturbed.


Lovers

Love outside of marriage?
Possibly.

Sex outside of marriage?
Nope. I think it should be saved for marriage alone.

On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?
Hard question. I'd say around twenty three

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?
I would have to have known the guy for a long time and love him; we'd have to get along, have the same values etc.

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse?
Cheat on him, intentionally hurt him

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?
I haven't really thought about it.

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?
Helping out at home, probably working.

How would you react with the possiblity of an arranged marriage?
I'd have a nervous breakdown; I can't imagine having to spend my entire life with someone I barely know.

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?
Another nervous breakdown

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?
I would feel very hurt and very angry; I can't imagine what that would be like...

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?
Yeah

Would you want any children?
Right now, no, but that may change with age.

Is divorce an option?
A last resort - depends on the circumstances

Under what circumstances?
If he was abusive, it would be an option, or if he cheated on me repeatedly.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?
I would definitely want them around; I would consider them like my own.

...the mother?
It would depend on the mother's attitude and her relationship with her children.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?
NO!

Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?
No.

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government?
Not much would change

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel?
I would be slightly disturbed, but I'd like to think that would not change our relationship.

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel?
Angry, hurt, betrayed. I'd feel like I was not good enough.

Lovers

Love outside of marriage?
Perhaps

Sex outside of marriage?
No

What age is a reasonable age for marriage? Somewhere past college age. Of course, for me, I'd like to spend my first years traveling rather than being tied down to some guys house. (Not that I'd ever be that way.) I'll probably get married around twenty eight, or thirty.

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage? I'd have to trust the person a heck of a lot, but I have trust issues

What kinds of things would you NEVER do for your spouse? hmmm I'd never change my personality or drop friends. If he didn't like it--tough.

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage? Not bills. I don't do money xD I spend like wild. I'd cook more than clean. If the guy didn't clean, I'd bully him into it because I am not going to be some house maid. I'd also watch the kids, but I love kids, and plan to take off of work until they go into school. I don't think it's "right" to leave your kids at a daycare center while you work.

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing? Bills. But they wouldn't be the only one bringing in money, either. And they can help me clean house :-p

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage? I'd scream, and yell, and cry, and say, "no"

An arranged marriage with someone older than you? no, even creepier.

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react? I'd probably freak out, terrible horribly bad, not want to see them, bawl my eyes out, and run to my nearest best friend with a tub of ice cream.

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating? Yes, but I'd probably think of it anyways.

Would you want any children? Yes.

Is divorce an option? No, simply because I'm a child of divorce, and it isn't healthy. I understand people can pretend to be someone until you marry them, but if life is going to be like that, I just won't marry.

Under what circumstances? N/A

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you? I'd want to be with them, I wouldn't impose myself on them and be the parent, but I'd want to be their for them if they wanted me to be. I'd want to treat them kindly and let them know that I'm not going to take their father away from them.

...the mother? If she didn't try to kill me...?

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage? hahahhahaha, no.


Would you support prostitution? No

What happened if prostitution became legalized by the government? there would be a lot of it in the USA

If you found out that your spouse used prostitution services before the marriage, how would you feel? I'd feel rather odd about it. It's just...strange. It would show their true...urges?

If you found out that your spouse continued using these services after you two were married, how would you feel? I'd feel worthless, and cheated, and would really not be happy with them.

Love outside of marriage? Love is an uncontrollable emotion, but you should really love the person you marry, to save this from happening.

Sex outside of marriage? hmm no. Though "open marriages" are odd things.

Snoink wrote:On Marriage

What age is a reasonable age for marriage?

Dang. 18?

What events would have to happen before you would consider marriage?

I'd have to be absolutely certain about my feelings for the person. They'd have to propose to me properly. (Get on one knee, and say something that includes the words "I love you". Nothing else matters, but that's a MUST!)

What kinds of roles would you see yourself doing within the marriage?

Cooking (SOME) meals. Taking care of the kids. Working part-time. Doing most of the stuff having to do with homeschooling.

What kinds of roles would you see your spouse doing?

Whatever works. Hopefully cleaning, as I don't think I'd be any good at that!

How would you react with the possibliity of an arranged marriage?

Not too damn well!

An arranged marriage with someone older than you?

Not gonna happen!

If your spouse cheated on you, how would you react?

I'd be really mad at first. But I'd be all clingy-like and end up being the one begging for us to "try to work it out".

Would you be ashamed if you thought about cheating?

I would never cheat. Period. But I might think about once or twice in my lifetime. Thoughts don't count!

Would you want any children?

Yes, eventually. But I'd have to feel very secure in my relationship. I don't want my kids to grow up in a divorce situation like I did, or like my mom did, or her mom did, or...

Is divorce an option?

Depends. If I don't have kids, yes. If I do have kids, I need to seriously think about what would be a worse way for them to grow up.

Under what circumstances?

See above, plus, it has to be something that CANNOT be solved through patience, discussion, cooperation, blah blah blah.

If there was children from a previous marriage, how much would you want the children to be with you?

A lot. To me, being a parent would be the most important thing in my life.

...the mother?

I'll take this to mean "the other parent". This is not important to me if the parent is a dangerous person or otherwise potentially negative influence on the children's lives. Only if the kids specifically asked to be with the other parent would it be a huge issue with me.

Consider yourself at the age you are currently. Are you ready for marriage?

Hell, no! (16)

Prostitution

Would you support prostitution?

Sure. I don't really care.

Lovers

Love outside of marriage?

Hmm? Do you mean, is love outside of marriage okay or is it okay for a married person to be in love with someone else? For the former, yes, for the latter, no, unless they have some kind of *arrangement* with the other spouse.

Sex outside of marriage?

Pretty much the same answer as for the previous question.