Hello, YWS! I haven't been around in a long while, so it's really interesting to see how things have and haven't changed, and one of the things I noticed as having changed was how reviews are received.
Back when I was super active and reviewing everything in sight, I acquired a reputation as being not just a harsh reviewer, but one of the harshest reviewers around, even though I never really tried to be. Back then though, being considered a harsh reviewer was considered a badge of honor because it meant your critiques were thorough, spot-on, and never sugar-coated, and members with reputations as harsh reviewers would get tons of requests to shred an author's piece so that the author could see everything wrong with the piece and fix it. Harsh reviews were a very valuable commodity back in the day.
It seems that nowadays, the reviews most members want are gentler in tone, which is actually pretty nice. I've received my share of really harsh reviews, and they can really hurt, especially if you didn't request any.
The thing is, "nice reviews" are really subjective, as are "harsh reviews". I've seen a few examples roaming around of reviews that have been accused of being too harsh, when all they did was respectfully point out some issues with the work. There's also a general lack of appreciation for reviewers who take the time to write well-thought-out reviews pointing out issues and making suggestions for improvement, because apparently those kinds of reviews aren't "nice".
Something for all sides to remember is that there's a person on the other end. It's something I've always tried to remember and apply, even when I brought the talons out to thoroughly shred a piece (but only ever upon request, since the talons almost always draw blood).
If a reviewer has left you a lengthy, thought-out review, it means they care enough about you as a writer to put in all the time, effort, and energy into reading your work, analyzing it, and then writing up the review. Even if you can't agree with the reviewer's viewpoint and think they're horribly wrong, it's worth making the effort to Like the review and/or say a simple "thank you", if only for all the work they put into the review, and then maybe point out some points where you disagree with their review if you can remain civil.
The discussions that result from review replies are awesome, and not only can everyone involved learn a lot about the intricacies of writing, but a lot of the time, you'll also get a great writer friend out of it as well. It's how pretty much all of my YWS friendships were formed.
On the other side, reviewers should never, ever, ever bring the writer's skills or worth as a person into question in a review. The review is a critique of the work, NOT the person, and any time you criticize the person behind the work, you are being cruel. Writers are NOT their writing, and to assume things about a writer based on the themes and subject matter of their writing is something that should never be done; writing about things we've never believed ourselves, or from different viewpoints, or even from opposite sides of an issue is one of the ways to broaden our writing horizons and skills, so a reviewer can never know for sure if it wasn't just an experiment into a new writing territory or a writer's actual beliefs.
For example, assuming that just because a writer has written a story or several where the main character commits heinous crimes means that the writer endorses the committing of heinous crimes is silly and hurtful. Another similar example involves grammar. If a writer has terrible grammar, there is no need to call them out as being incompetent at writing. Instead, point out the common errors and direct them to informational resources and leave it at that.
Your focus, as a reviewer, should be on the work in front of you and NOT the person behind it.
That aside, there's a world of difference between saying something like "I couldn't enjoy this piece because the grammar errors were distracting" compared to "this piece sucked because the grammar sucked". They both honestly convey the same general idea, but the former is much more considerate of the author, while the latter is the reviewer being a jerk.
Don't be a jerk, reviewers. There's a surplus of jerks in existence.
Don't be a jerk when replying to reviews, either, writers.
My main point in all of this is there's a difference between criticism, which is good and necessary for improving as a writer, and being a jerk. Criticism hurts enough even when packaged nicely, so don't be a jerk when giving it, and don't be a jerk when receiving it, either.
And just in case this super long post didn't provide enough material for discussing and opining on things:
What qualifies as a harsh review to you?
What do you think about harsh reviews?
What are your favorite kinds of reviews to receive?
How would you say you personally review?
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