The Perfect Man Myth or We don't know what we want
I have the stangest feeling that we often don't know what we really want. Actually, I have develped a theory. In fact, we NEVER know what we want. We just think we know what we want and when we get it, we're no longer satisfied.
This theory came around when I thought that I had met the 'perfect'guy. He was sweet, always ready to give me the world, romantic and too annoying for words. He would never stop agreeing to everything that I said. This guy had no opinion of his own. Unfortunately, I can't help but pity him. He's just so nice to me. He's a nice person. With the personality of a puppy. I don't want a puppy...well I do. But I want a puppy for a different reason. I wand the guy I'm involved with to actually have character, you know? Like, I don't want him to agree with everything that I ever say.
So, how do I tell him it's over? Learn from my mistakes girls, don't let it go on for too long. I am such a coward, I can't put an end to it myself so I'm waiting for the guy to do it. And he's absolutely convinced that he's obsessed with me.
I don't believe it, though. He doesn't get me. He just tries too, to make me happy. Unfortunately he's failing- miserably. He has himself convinced that he's in love with me, because he thinks that's the way it should be. But, come on, I'm not saying that I'm this huge expert on relationships, but he was madly in love with me like a week after we started dating.
Take this from me too, NEVER date younger guys in your adolescence. They're much too immature.
So now, all I have left is to sit back and think ''What the hell did I do? And what the hell am I going to do?''
I know that the right thing to do is to break it off. Another piece of advise, do NOT introduce your new boy friend to your parents until you've been dating for at least a while. Now they love him. More than me in fact. They met his parents. I met his parents. I'm in so deep in my own crap and now I have to get out of all of this myself. How? I don't know. But I have learned one thing:
The perfect man is a myth instilled in us by romantic comedies. Some guys strive to be this perfect man, but instead of suceeding, they end up looking like idiots and fakers. Then most girls end up despicing them.
Very mean, right? I mean, they try. They should be given some credit. Wrong. Be yourslef man. What the hell is wrong with you? Why do you want to be someone that you're so obviously not. A cliche. A sickening fake cliche. Is that what you want to be? No. I don't think so.
I am convinced that somewhere out there a guy is waiting for me. He may not be fairy tale perfect, he may not be romantic comedy perfect, but I do know he'll be perfect for me. I know that he won't have to pretend to be perfect, because he will be confident enough to be who he is.
I know, that somewhere out there, our perfect match is waiting. He may not always agree with everything that we say, he may sometimes anger us, but we will always, always admire this one guy. We will always know that he's right for us.
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